What would you ask?

I spent at least two or three hours yesterday writing down all the questions I want my new nanny to know the answers to before she starts working on her own (she has a hand over period of about two – three weeks). Once I finished the list was about 4 pages long:-) Do you think she’ll run away if I ask her to spend her first two weeks filling in all the blanks (answers she doesn’t have straight of the top of her head now)?

Here is my mega list! What do you think?

Daily Routine

morning (before the nap)

afternoon (after the nap)

How do we structure play? (How do we spend time playing? How do we guide interest, how we limit something and how do we motivate?)

How do you know if:

he is hungry


wants a drink

tiered / over stimulated

wants to sleep

wants you to help him


wants you to read him a book

What to do if Henry throws something on the floor because he is frustrated?

What to do if Henry is in a bad mood and how to distinguish between bad mood and beeing greasily

What to do in case of a tantrum?

What is forbidden at all times?

What is conditionally not allowed? How to decide if it’s ok or not to allowed these things?

Is there anything we are not saying to Henry what is quite common to say to children in other families? (something you were expecting to say or to hear us saying)Why aren’t we doing it like others?

What is a typical behavior of a parent/nanny in a public place (or play group) and how (and why!) is our behavior different

What are Henry’s main interests at the moment?

How can you tell that Henry is interested in something in particular, especially when his interest beginning to shift to something new?

Rank following values with the most important for us coming first (and also rank them in the order important to you)

discipline, creativity, being tidy, self-respect, obedience, open to new knowledge, well
behaved, being organized, following norms and rules


What is Henry allergic to?

What is he allowed to eat but it should be limited?

What are the rules / limits in general about food?

Would Henry eat sweets / savories that are displayed openly if he just finished eating?

How will we act (and more importantly – why) in following situations:

1. Child sits s in a cafe and reaches towards an empty glass

2. During a group play/class Henry gets up and wants to get a toy he spotted in the opposite corner of the room

3. Henry is trying to get onto a high platform in a play center for the last couple of minutes; he is annoyed but not crying

4. Takes a pen and wants to start drawing on the table

5. Plays with water and gets it all over him all the time

6. Starts shouting because he didn’t get want he wanted

7. He is playing was a car and another child is trying to get it off him

8. Same situation but now Henry is trying to get that toy from another child

9. Doesn’t want to wear a bib for his meal

10. Henry wants what’s on your plate rather then what’s on his (How often does it happen and how could you potentially avoid it from happening?)

11. Starts crying when you put him down for a nap during the day

12. Wakes up crying

13. You can hear that he is awake because he talks loudly and entertains himself in bed

14. Wakes up in the morning and doesn’t want to get out of his jim jams even though it’s already time for breakfast

15. Henry wants you to put cartoon’s DVD on (in the morning, during the day, before dinner, after dinner)

16. Been already out and about at the play ground for quite a while. Every time you ask him “Should we go home” he replies “no”

17. Sais he doesn’t want to go to bed

18. It’s already 3pm but Henry still sais “no” every time you ask him if he wants to eat

19. Takes a cloth (dirty or clean) and heads of to clean windows

20.  We are taking a train and Henry doesn’t want to be strapped into a push chair but rather would walk up and down the carriage (we still have 20-30 minutes to go)

21. Henry reaches towards a cup with hot drink

22. Henry reaches towards a working (hot) oven

23. You are walking in a shopping centre and Henry decides to walk into a toy store

24. There is a yogurt cup on the table and Henry reaches towards it wanting to have some yogurt (do you need to hold the cup while he is eating?)

25. While playing Henry spilled juice, pasta or crushed a biscuit on the floor

26. Henry finished drinking his activia yogurt and left the pot on the chair, threw it on the floor, etc.

27.It’s summer, Henry, wearing jeans and shoes, decides he wants to play in a plunge pool in the park


How much does a child need to eat in a day?

In general what must happen every day?

How would we reply to the following questions (1- totally disagree / 5 – totally agree) Please also describe how you would answer these questions

Usually children are much more cautious and careful then their parents think

A healthy child knows better than his parent what and when he wants to eat

It makes sense to punish a child (under 5) as long as it’s not cruel

Children (under five) know full weel what they are punished for (they can build cause and effect chains like we grownups can)

Small children manipulate grownups feelings by crying (with tears) so they can get what they want

If I scream “careful” to a playing child he will know what he suppose to do

Before letting child do something new it’s better to show him how to do it – this way he will learn quicker and better

If a child sleeps too long during the day he will have troubles falling asleep in the evening

If you have sore throat you can’t eat ice cream

If a child trying to climb up something out of his age range (e.g. at the play ground) it’s better to get him off there and wait until he is old enough

The main task of a nanny/parent is to keep a child safe

If the nanny is not proactively engaging with the child (but is rather sitting further away keeping an eye on him from afar) she is not fulfilling her duties


Please describe (with examples) how we develop Henry’s


believe in his abilities


positive attitude towards others



What are the main behavioural differences in children with following temperament:






Which temperament is Henry likely to have and how this informs the approach to his rearing



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