I spent at least two or three hours yesterday writing down all the questions I want my new nanny to know the answers to before she starts working on her own (she has a hand over period of about two – three weeks). Once I finished the list was about 4 pages long:-) Do you think she’ll run away if I ask her to spend her first two weeks filling in all the blanks (answers she doesn’t have straight of the top of her head now)?
Here is my mega list! What do you think?
morning (before the nap)
afternoon (after the nap)
How do we structure play? (How do we spend time playing? How do we guide interest, how we limit something and how do we motivate?)
How do you know if:
he is hungry
wants a drink
tiered / over stimulated
wants to sleep
wants you to help him
wants you to read him a book
What to do if Henry throws something on the floor because he is frustrated?
What to do if Henry is in a bad mood and how to distinguish between bad mood and beeing greasily
What to do in case of a tantrum?
What is forbidden at all times?
What is conditionally not allowed? How to decide if it’s ok or not to allowed these things?
Is there anything we are not saying to Henry what is quite common to say to children in other families? (something you were expecting to say or to hear us saying)Why aren’t we doing it like others?
What is a typical behavior of a parent/nanny in a public place (or play group) and how (and why!) is our behavior different
What are Henry’s main interests at the moment?
How can you tell that Henry is interested in something in particular, especially when his interest beginning to shift to something new?
Rank following values with the most important for us coming first (and also rank them in the order important to you)
discipline, creativity, being tidy, self-respect, obedience, open to new knowledge, well
behaved, being organized, following norms and rules
What is Henry allergic to?
What is he allowed to eat but it should be limited?
What are the rules / limits in general about food?
Would Henry eat sweets / savories that are displayed openly if he just finished eating?
How will we act (and more importantly – why) in following situations:
1. Child sits s in a cafe and reaches towards an empty glass
2. During a group play/class Henry gets up and wants to get a toy he spotted in the opposite corner of the room
3. Henry is trying to get onto a high platform in a play center for the last couple of minutes; he is annoyed but not crying
4. Takes a pen and wants to start drawing on the table
5. Plays with water and gets it all over him all the time
6. Starts shouting because he didn’t get want he wanted
7. He is playing was a car and another child is trying to get it off him
8. Same situation but now Henry is trying to get that toy from another child
9. Doesn’t want to wear a bib for his meal
10. Henry wants what’s on your plate rather then what’s on his (How often does it happen and how could you potentially avoid it from happening?)
11. Starts crying when you put him down for a nap during the day
12. Wakes up crying
13. You can hear that he is awake because he talks loudly and entertains himself in bed
14. Wakes up in the morning and doesn’t want to get out of his jim jams even though it’s already time for breakfast
15. Henry wants you to put cartoon’s DVD on (in the morning, during the day, before dinner, after dinner)
16. Been already out and about at the play ground for quite a while. Every time you ask him “Should we go home” he replies “no”
17. Sais he doesn’t want to go to bed
18. It’s already 3pm but Henry still sais “no” every time you ask him if he wants to eat
19. Takes a cloth (dirty or clean) and heads of to clean windows
20. We are taking a train and Henry doesn’t want to be strapped into a push chair but rather would walk up and down the carriage (we still have 20-30 minutes to go)
21. Henry reaches towards a cup with hot drink
22. Henry reaches towards a working (hot) oven
23. You are walking in a shopping centre and Henry decides to walk into a toy store
24. There is a yogurt cup on the table and Henry reaches towards it wanting to have some yogurt (do you need to hold the cup while he is eating?)
25. While playing Henry spilled juice, pasta or crushed a biscuit on the floor
26. Henry finished drinking his activia yogurt and left the pot on the chair, threw it on the floor, etc.
27.It’s summer, Henry, wearing jeans and shoes, decides he wants to play in a plunge pool in the park
How much does a child need to eat in a day?
In general what must happen every day?
How would we reply to the following questions (1- totally disagree / 5 – totally agree) Please also describe how you would answer these questions
Usually children are much more cautious and careful then their parents think
A healthy child knows better than his parent what and when he wants to eat
It makes sense to punish a child (under 5) as long as it’s not cruel
Children (under five) know full weel what they are punished for (they can build cause and effect chains like we grownups can)
Small children manipulate grownups feelings by crying (with tears) so they can get what they want
If I scream “careful” to a playing child he will know what he suppose to do
Before letting child do something new it’s better to show him how to do it – this way he will learn quicker and better
If a child sleeps too long during the day he will have troubles falling asleep in the evening
If you have sore throat you can’t eat ice cream
If a child trying to climb up something out of his age range (e.g. at the play ground) it’s better to get him off there and wait until he is old enough
The main task of a nanny/parent is to keep a child safe
If the nanny is not proactively engaging with the child (but is rather sitting further away keeping an eye on him from afar) she is not fulfilling her duties
Please describe (with examples) how we develop Henry’s
believe in his abilities
positive attitude towards others
What are the main behavioural differences in children with following temperament:
Which temperament is Henry likely to have and how this informs the approach to his rearing