One Sentence Journal #143

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Right now – reading a book trying to find an acceptable way on how to teach Henry not to push kids… He only wants yo play but it got bad enough for other parents to take their children away when they see Henry running towards them – Olga came all exhausted after a 45 minutes class. We’ve agreed that every time Henry pushes a child we pick him up, take him out of the situation and while looking at us tell him “you should not hurt other children, you just hurt that boy!” in a very firm voice. Olga ended up doing it for nearly 45 minutes…
Any other suggestions?
Already discussing having a part-time English nanny ad we thought that speaking English might help Henry – I am not 100% convinced though…

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8 thoughts on “One Sentence Journal #143

  1. Sounds like my boy long ago. I did the should not approach & it never, ever stuck. Much better to teach how, the right way. Practice going up with him to a child he wants to be friendly with & reward him for saying hi & keeping hands away. Reward, reward, reward!! Great try, very friendly, all verbal positive reinforcement. You’ll all be in a better mood for it. Try to ignore, down-play the mistakes, every kid makes them!! Probably their kids do it at home in privacy, oh well. Good Luck staying positive!!

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  2. He can “earn ” extra play time at the park or whereever—not things generally. You can really create a monster that way!! Extra time alone with you reading or what ever, keep changing, but it must be earned. The words & smiles that go along with the praise can & do work wonders. When he goofs, eventually you will be able to convey your message of disapproval through a blank stare. He’ll know, b/c he’ll be missing those feel goods. Remember to be seriously working on only one behavior change a t a time. You are so smart, in taking him aside to correct him if need be. Also would suggest role playing at home with the baby posing as the other kids on the play ground. See if he can learn nice & friendly in the quiet home environment & then little by little practice it in the outside world where he’s all excited to see & be with someone.

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  3. He’s probably rough b/c he’s so excited & friendly, looking for fun!! Anytime you can, try to substitute one good habit for a “bad” habit/behavior. Good Luck will wait t o hear how it goes.

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  4. it’s always easier to start something else instead of trying to forcibly stop something. For example, instead of being rough–which I attribute to excitement/friendliness/immaturity– teach Henry to do something else instead. He can clap hands b/c he’s excited to see someone. Or he can touch the other kids shoulder gently while saying hi. Rereading your initial comment—substitute walking up to another child “walking feet, Henry” always, so they aren’t afraid of Henry just barreling them over. It’s a hard one to substitute for, but use your thinking cap.
    My daughter had long flowing curls as a baby & toddler. At 2 she strted pulling her hair out at the roots and twizzling the hair. My doctor told me to cut her hair short so it would be hard & hurt to pull out. Instead a friend suggested I give her a doll with long hair as a substitute & It worked. She had a doll with long hair until she was 10. She pulled the doll’s hair out & we had to replace it many times!! We never cut her hair off!!
    It’s not the same problem, but always try to replace a bad habit with a better habit. let me know what you come up with.

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